Oral sex may be the most common sexual activity today. But our recent oral sex poll yielded surprising results on who likes to give versus receive oral. In last month’s edition of What’s Your Fetish, we took on oral sex as its own fetish and niche.
The poll accompanying that article was one of our most comprehensive in terms of the number of questions asked and answers offered. However, we received fewer responses than last month’s poll on gangbangs (287 vs. 626 responses).
The resulting picture is complex, though it’s always difficult to draw conclusions about our female readers. Of the 287 responses received as this post was published, only 22 individuals identified as female while 257 identified as male. Another eight individuals identified as transgender.
Types of oral sex and partners
Men prefer to get blowjobs — no surprise there. What is surprising is how slight that majority is, according to our results. About 52% of the men said their favorite oral sex came in the form of receiving fellatio. However, 28.7% said they preferred performing cunnilingus, while nearly 10% said they preferred to give blowjobs. Yes, you read that right — giving blowjobs. Dickgirl porn is the top niche at 3DX sites like Affect3D. So in this context, it seems likely many of those men were thinking of blowjobs for dickgirls, not other men. Another 6% liked playing with the backdoor — 4 men preferred receiving rimjobs while another 13 preferred to give rimjobs.
Of the 22 female respondents, 10 said they preferred giving blowjobs, five preferred giving cunnilingus (these five all identified as bisexual or lesbian), and another five preferred to receive cunnilingus (also bisexual though one was heterosexual). Two female respondents were more into anilingus, one receiving and the other giving.
When it came to partners, over 57% of all respondents want to enjoy oral sex one-on-one with a single partner. About 36% preferred oral sex in a threesome, and the vast majority of those preferred a male/female/female threesome (including male/female/dickgirl). Finally, approximately 10% of respondents preferred oral sex in an orgy or bukkake scenario.
Differing tastes for oral sex
The traditional view on oral sex, buttressed on traditional gender roles, holds that men receive oral sex from women. Men enjoy the pleasure of receiving oral while women get off on knowing how much their partners enjoy the act. Of course many women (and bisexual/gay men, and dickgirls) actually enjoy the physical sensation of having a swollen, pulsating penis in their mouths.
Among our 22 female respondents, the reasons given for enjoying the act of performing oral were split evenly between liking the sensations (touch/taste), liking their partners’ reactions of pleasure, and receiving sexual fluids (e.g. cum) in their mouths. If we combine the answer choices of enjoying partners’ reactions and the desire of making them orgasm, we would have eight female respondents. This would become the most popular single choice with 36% of all female respondents choosing it.
However, our results also show that modern men don’t necessarily believe they should always and only receive oral sex. Our results showed the same reasons chosen by women for enjoying the act of giving oral is true for men. If we combine the same two choices of enjoying partner reaction and desire to make them orgasm, a majority of men, nearly 65%, fall into this category.
Going beyond physical pleasure
Also, when we asked why men enjoyed receiving oral, the physical pleasure wasn’t the top reason. About 46% said their top reason was enjoying the fact that their partners liked pleasuring them. Physical pleasure was the top reason for 25.6% of our male respondents. One interesting fact is that twice as many men indicated they like giving oral because of their partner’s reactions (113 responses) than because they wanted their partner to achieve orgasm (54 responses).
Studies have shown that only 50% of women occasionally achieve orgasm solely via intercourse, with another 20% rarely or never being able to cum from intercourse. Direct clitoral stimulation is needed, which doesn’t happen much during penetrative sex. So while women are more likely to cum from oral sex (and the associated contact with their clitoris), the men who responded to our survey didn’t have the female orgasm in mind as their chief goal. Instead they responded similarly to women, in that they enjoy the sights and sounds of their partner getting off.
Very few respondents of any gender said they didn’t like giving oral; nine men (3.5% of our sample) and one woman (4.5% of our much more limited female sample).
Even splits on oral sex in porn
When it comes to the depiction of oral sex in porn, whether live action or 3DX, the data split surprisingly evenly. We asked which aspect of oral sex respondents most liked in porn. After all, engaging in oral sex as either the giver or receiver doesn’t give you all the camera angles and perspectives of the act that porn does.
The three top-cited reasons for enjoying oral in porn each received a similar number of responses. These splits were very close between men and women, even given our small sample size of of female respondents. They are:
- Close-up camera angles of oral sex (65 responses)
- A female orgasm achieved via oral sex (70 responses)
- The sounds made by performers via oral sex (67 responses)
The vaunted “money” or cum shot, wherein the sperm flies out of the cock, wasn’t far behind with 51 responses. The money shot accounted for 17.8% of responses with the three most popular choices above accounting for between 22% to 24% each.
It’s worth noting that the “sounds” in option 3 above refer to sounds, like grunting, moaning, and the noises made by the actual anatomy. We offered a separate choice for the actual audible words — “dirty talk between performers during oral sex.” This option received 23 responses which is about 8% of all responses.
Concluding thoughts
Oral sex is a diverse array of acts that has come a long way from being a sexual taboo in older cultures and traditions to being a mostly egalitarian act of mutual pleasure. In our results, men do enjoy receiving oral slightly more than women do. But all respondents similarly enjoy giving oral and mostly for the same reasons. They like knowing they are pleasuring their partners, and getting the visual and auditory feedback from their partners. We see this in the preference for the sights (camera angles) and sounds (sex noises, dirty talk) of oral sex in the porn our respondents watch.
Still, tell us your thoughts on all this in the comments below.
Andre De Chartrand
August 20, 2017First time on your site, An artist, learning gradually the digital world. Still getting amazed at the rapid progress of the media. Fascinating web site, bravo to all your artists! I truly enjoyed this article , reguardless of my personel awareness since 16, over 50 years ago. Real women taught me well at a young age.
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Trekkie Monster
July 1, 2017The world needs more representation of male-on-female oral sex. In real porn, in 3DX, in the gratuitous sex scenes every HBO and Netflix original seems to have. Just more pussy eating in general.