In Lewis Carol’s Alice in Wonderland, Alice’s father gives her wise advice. He tells her that he always thinks of “five impossible things before breakfast”. Later in the book, she recites what she believes to be five impossible things that have since become reality to give herself courage in the impossible, clarifying that anything is possible if we reach for it. She completes the now almost stereotypical trope of reaching for a dead parent’s advice in a dire situation.
But the beautiful thing about this scene in Through the Looking Glass is that it’s up to the reader to decide if what she recites is possible or not. The book has presented the reader with an alternate version of the normal world and it’s up to them to decide what they think is real for her. Life is much the same way, asking us always to make the leap into impossibility and letting us believe what we want to believe.
Down the Rabbit Hole
There were only fifty years between the first flight and the first rocket to the moon. Humans are creatures of growth and impossibility, constantly reaching forward and sometimes beyond even the limits nature itself sets. And 3D offers humanity yet another opportunity: to create a virtual world just as vivid and real as our own. To peer, shall we say, into the looking glass. Artists and writers work hand in hand to create vivid art that reaches out to our sense of suspended reality and asks us to enjoy the beauty of something we cannot simply imagine, but see, reaching into a part of us that wants more than just average sex.
People use distractions in their everyday lives to go beyond normality, into the realms of books and movies, comics and television shows. We project our wants into realms of sci-fi, anime, and pop culture and 3DX art and erotica writing seeks to help people use their imaginations to produce an experience for themselves far beyond that of normal daily life. To infuse our baser wants and urges with the creativity and fantasy that normal life does not provide.
And many, many people love this art form and take the time to enjoy it and express themselves through it. But I’m going to cut to the chase here: Too many women don’t and I’m here to stand up and say, “I’m a woman and I enjoy Sci-Fi 3D porn”.
Hey, look! You’re all still here! And society hasn’t collapsed around us! Excellent.
Though our world is responsible for some amazing fantasy projections through movies, books, and television, it often punishes those who like those things by classifying them as “nerds” and social outcasts. It’s very recent that the men and women who belong to this subculture of “nerds” have taken the word back and are out with a vengeance. Thus the creation of many awesome things, including 3D porn.
Who doesn’t want to see Harley Quinn, a villain many women love and idealize, taking it like a champ? This format is a way that many people who love fictional pieces can have it in every aspect of their lives. So why isn’t this more popular with women?
Most women are ashamed to admit they love porn and society isn’t helping. In writing this article, I took to the internet to find some statistics that might help or counteract my point. What I found was that every article I encountered had the tone of surprise and some ridiculous statistic. None of the statistics were from the same central location or paper and they were all different. It caused me to ask the question of audience. Who is reading these articles and answering these surveys? What’s the demographic here? Women who are now being granted acceptance by statistics about other women or men who got a fun fact of the day?
Let’s Talk About Porn!
I found one article from Huffington Post suggesting that a survey of American women had found that only 9% of women watched porn and they found that to be suspicious (as they should). So they took to facebook and the women who did admit it, admitted it proudly. But there were only 300 responders. 300 women responded to countless advertisements simply asking them to respond to anonymous sex questions for a survey. So the conclusion I reached is thus: Women are ashamed to admit they like watching other women have sex in ways that are different from their own lives and when they may go to find other women like them all they find is the ancient insistence that women couldn’t possibly watch pornography. Gasp! (Side note, these people may also believe in hysteria.)
While it’s true that porn is not an open conversation that women have, at least in my social experience, it shouldn’t be a foreign concept. I’m not sure what keeps women in this perpetual shame. Is it parental standards or social pressures that prevent women from openly admitting they enjoy porn? Is it ignorance of how the porn industry works and the guilt that may come from that conception? To be honest, I don’t know. But what I do know is that women should be having this conversation. Our likes and dislikes should become known to the world.
So to counteract those people in a crazy amount of denial, let me insert my own opinions and experiences. I found porn at the bequest of a boyfriend at sixteen. I’d always liked cartoons better than watching people and when I found that that had been an option, boy did I take it. I have had to go to some pretty shady places on the internet just to find more of what I was interested in and honestly that shouldn’t be the case. But to me it was a secret. None of the other girls were interested in this. I couldn’t and didn’t say anything. But in college I realized that you have to stand up for it. Watching a girl enjoy being banged by tentacles is something that is never going to happen to you just like being a mermaid and falling in love with a prince at sixteen is never going to happen to you. So what’s the big difference? You shouldn’t be made to be ashamed of anything you enjoy. We’re living through watching fantasies to escape the trivialities of normal life. And to me, that’s pretty healthy.
So now, I’m standing up for it. I’m inviting other women to accept their love of porn, especially animated porn. These women shown in pictures with scantily clad armor bending over for alien dicks could be us and with our influences, they could be more like us, more realistic. Over the years we’ve gone from Disney’s horrifyingly sexist Cinderella to Queen Elsa and with porn, we could have that power too. More women just need to conquer their fear of judgment. Your life is your own. You can have a huge file drive of downloaded porn too and place it right next to your loved ones on the computer. And if they say something, watch something together and make a memory.
So, I’m officially declaring this site a place where women can watch porn and not be ashamed. I’m going to tackle topics here that I find fun and topics that we need to talk about. I’m very happy to announce that I’ll be writing here and hope you’ll join me with topic suggestions, questions, and disagreements. And please, take the time to watch an animated chick take some ogre dick today. You won’t be disappointed.
Cheers!
Collect
March 28, 2015I’m certain societal standards are derived from history. Before some of the common things we take for granted in todays world, such as DNA testing, there was no full proof way to know who’s child was born. Women fearing what their husband or mate might do would lie about the true father. Right or wrong, the men’s only solution was to control who the women have sex with or risk paying for another man’s child. This may seem heartless, but it is in the primal instincts of many species on our planet to protect their genetic line. Human’s share many of those instincts.
In today’s world, women have full control over if and when they have a child. (Some may fail at that control, but none the less it’s there) As humans we need to use our newly found cognitive ability. (On an evolutionary timescale) to over ride our instinctive feelings. As we do this, these outdated standards will fade away.
Bianca Rose
April 2, 2015Society is usually partially based on history and partially on what people want to think of history as. History is written by the winners and I think that’s something hugely important to keep in mind. Many older French and Native American and Aboriginal societies were run functionally by matriarchs. I think it’s really because capitalist society had this standard of purity it wanted to match and we’ve been trying to ever since. But I think we’re really starting to wake up as this weird standard we’ve always held is really starting to become useless.
Aidan
March 12, 2015Much of the best porn i have seen involves sexually confident, even sexually aggressive women. On the other hand, “acceptable” society says that women should for some reason be ashamed about their bodies and their sexuality.
Something needs to change.
Bianca Rose
April 2, 2015Sophia, a commenter below, really said it best I think as “we all like fantasy and imagination, where it’s safe to play and experiment”. Keeping in mind that it is mostly men who are drawing and writing these porn scenarios about aggressive women, it’s a safe place for women to be those things both for machoistic men who may thing aggressive women are dangerous to society and for women who may be afraid of being that in the bedroom or even in life. I think it says something loud and clear when our fantasies are a little too close to something achievable with a little confidence and I definitely hope that can change.
Epoch
March 11, 2015I know at least one of the prolific artists selling here is a female. Hopefully we see more female 3DX artists in the future.
Korothir
March 10, 2015Hi Bianca, great article! 🙂
to answer to the quote:
” I’m not sure what keeps women in this perpetual shame. Is it parental standards or social pressures that prevent women from openly admitting they enjoy porn?”
It’s sad to say but… I think it’s due to social pressure coming from a majority of men, which have poor thinking when it comes to sex. From observations I made countless times (even among close friends), here are the self-explanatory reactions:
– A man who says without complex he loves sex and/or have sex with several / many women is admired, even envied by other men who see in him a “sex symbol”, the virility incarnate (and that’s always a positive thing from a man point of view).
– A woman who says without complex she loves sex and/or have sex with several / many men is nearly always treated as a “slut”, a woman who doesn’t deserve respect and men often try by any means that the involved woman feel ashamed.
Look also at religions:
in Christianism or Islam… Adultery is punished and synonym of shame when it is perpetrated by a woman.
When it’s perpetrated by a man? Well, it’s not that important… Worse: the woman involved is often the one at fault, because she has “tempted” the man (who, of course, is “innocent”).
Yes, it’s sad to say that, even it’s evolving slowly, our society is still stuck with archaic and macho principles… No wonder why many women appear to be shy when it comes to talk about sexuality.
At least, that’s my conclusion.
Bianca Rose
April 2, 2015Definitely, I think it does have to do mostly with society. Women have always had to have been “pure” and often were and in some countries still are inspected for virginity by a midwife before marriage, whereas men have never had to. We’ve come along way since then and I think we can go even further. We’ve had a few sexual revolutions, I think we could do with another one 😉
miro
March 10, 2015YES!!! We have found her! The first woman ever to love porn! 😀
In all seriousness, great first piece and thanks for starting the discussion 🙂 Sex is a two way street and here’s hoping women will start get a word in edgewise. It’d be fun to see where women’s fantasies are the same/ differ.
gazukull
March 10, 2015I don’t know what you are talking about miro. My wife and I have porn night at least once a week. Where else am I going to get ideas for stories.
miro
March 11, 2015I know, was joking of course. Lot’s of women watch porn, I’m sure 🙂
Sophia
March 10, 2015Good article, glad you’re standing up for yourself and others! =)
I think our culture is pretty sexually repressive to begin with, but it is especially so for women. And that’s a shame because we enjoy sex and porn as much as any guy!
It’d would be nice to see more women admit it – not just to themselves, but to each other, so that we can get rid of the stigma and feeling all alone and ashamed. Because there’s no reason that we, or any gender, should be!
And while I would love to see what happens when more female artists and directors and photographers get into the business, I don’t think it will be as radical as some think… we all like fantasy and imagination, where it’s safe to play and experiment. =)
Bianca Rose
April 2, 2015I think there’s really something starting to happen with women and their bodies and the way that people, mostly women, see themselves. And I think it’s starting from the internet. Pictures, inspirational quotes, support groups, ways to mobilize and empathize that we’ve never had before. Hopefully it won’t be too long until we’re all involved in what we like as a society, not just some dictating for all in almost every aspect of life. Thanks for the comment!
The Dude
March 10, 2015Wonderful article, Bianca. Sex is a human venture and nobody should be ashamed of participating. 3DX in particular is very well suited to appealing to the interests of both genders, so I’m looking forward to the way artists are going to tackle female friendly content in the future. Speaking of which, how many female 3DX artists actually exist? It’s going to be difficult to provide female-oriented content if it keeps being made by guys, I’d reckon.
Bianca Rose
April 2, 2015Thanks for the compliment! I look forward to writing more articles here and i’m glad you enjoyed my commentary. It’s really difficult to know just how many there are because like all artists, pen names and identities are a common thing. It’s like an MMORPG, plenty may say that they’re women, or vice versa. It’s more common to see women draw fan art or write erotica than draw 3DX. And that’s pretty true, but I also think that the first step is maybe being aware that there even is a difference in opinion from the viewers gender.