What impact has 3DX and porn had on your life? If you really think about it — about how watching other people have sex on a screen has impacted your habits, relationships, and intimacy — objectively, can you really say absolutely no impact? We live in a world where we have access to more information than ever before, and porn is a massive part of that for many.
To me, it’s a facilitator. It allows me to explore fantasies of perfect girls with impossible bodies having sex in a very specific way. It’s also an easy release when the day’s done. But my consumption has varied throughout the years, especially with Covid.
But let’s look at why porn can be a healthy release.
We all know that feeling. You’re following a straight path, going about your day, and then something — it can be completely random, maybe a fleeting memory, a girl’s smile, etc. — makes you horny. And that’s it: all productivity gone. There’s no stopping it now, that rush of desire. Most of the time it’s harmless. Many times, it can even be positive: maybe push you to show some love to your significant other or text that booty call. But if you just want to show some love to yourself, porn is great for that. It’s the tool that will allow a quick release from that sudden rush of lust.
There are of course times when it’s also negative. Depending on how radical that tipping point is, how strong the rush of desire, it might make you send that text you’ll regret later or spend hours watching porn – hours you could have spent being productive.
Now, many of us human beings (at least speaking from personal experience), go through these fairly often. You learn to control the bursts of hormones as you get older but they’re still there, undeniable and just waiting to pounce. When you’re a teenager of course it’s a shitshow. And as a guy, those urges can last well into your twenties, or even longer!
A good caricature of this is your typical futa. They just can’t control themselves. At least, that’s the impression most of the image sets and animations give us here at A3D right? These beautiful creatures are almost cursed by an overzealous libido. The slightest provocation and bam! It’s on (and hard). They just can’t resist. Now, as I mentioned in a previous article on dick girls and the gym, fortunately, their surroundings tend to offer up immediate satisfaction to these undeniable urges. Futas are a kind of exaggeration of our sex lives or at least one side of our sex lives. In a sense, we all have an inner futa screaming inside of us. Every now and then she breaks through and that’s your day fucked.
But I thought I’d share some very amateurish thoughts on basic psychology with regards to this (urges and desire, not futas… although it would be interesting to write a psychological guide to futas… but I digress). There is a big difference between fantasy and reality, just as there is a massive step from an urge to a compulsion. With fantasy, it’s an idealized perception of reality, or rather the reality we’d like to see/experience. Or perhaps we don’t even want to ever experience it. We’d rather that personal distortion of reality remain fictitious, pure entertainment.
With urges and compulsions, one is a kind of deniable itch; the other is like an order you can’t resist. Once it’s made itself heard, you can’t say no. Addicts in particular deal with these on a daily basis. Saying no takes massive willpower and time. Note: I’m only speaking from personal experience here, obviously people deal with these issues in different ways. Also, this A3D article offers some cool insights into the difference between male and female fantasies.
I know that personally, there are certain triggers that take me from being completely not horny to, “right let me send this text to my booty call because otherwise, I will die.” or that “hey, you up?” text in about a split second. And personally, those qualify as compulsions. At least they did for a long time. I’ve learned how to deal with them. But in any case, porn can be one of those.
But who cares about my urges right? That’s just an example. And of course, libido/sex drive varies from one person to another. Many people are also a lot better at controlling their urges. For example, I have a friend that can be at a nudist beach (yes, this is Europe), see a stunning woman fully naked, and not give a fuck – simply because he is perfectly fine with his girlfriend. The biggest reaction I’ve had out of him was “she’s cute” Now personally, of course, I won’t bother that woman or stare, but I know that there is absolutely zero chance I won’t be horny af one millisecond after seeing her. And hopefully, I have a towel handy in those moments. The point is, whether it’s hormones, pheromones, or Cupid himself compelling you to suddenly stop what you’re doing and think only about sex, it’s a tipping point.
But is it necessarily always healthy to give in to those feelings, those hormones? It seems there is a fine line between a healthy form of release and an addiction. And again, that comes down to whether or not you’re able to control yourself. Whether at that moment your dick or pussy takes over, you can actually take a step back if need be and let the feeling pass. Maybe put the phone down. After all, release might feel great. You might even feel a buzz for a while, but what about after? If it brightens your day (or night) and doesn’t harm anyone, then sure, sounds healthy! But if you feel remorse, regret, or even disgust from that moment and the need to punish yourself, then it might not be the healthiest of habits.
A compulsion of this kind, and the number of times it makes itself felt each day, could derive from our relationship with porn and media in general. We now have 24h, 7/7 access to all the virtual (and in part real) sex we could ever dream of, and unlike sex in the real world, this sex can be obtained with minimal effort and no risk of rejection. Porn makes sex so easy that even those of us having frequent and regular sex may enjoy more porn than we enjoy trysts. And if that’s the case, what’s to stop the line between porn and reality becoming blurred? What if porn is the new reality for human sexuality? And if that’s the case, how do we compartmentalize the participants in those fantasies? By no means am I trying to give a moral lesson here, but those porn stars we enjoy remain people. What we are watching is fiction, not reality – yes, even the “amateur” section. It’s not real. Actors go home to families and have normal sex lives of their own.
Actress Dani Daniels talks about the impact Porn has had on her life and how some fans can forget that she is a normal person, not a sex fiend. The fact that fans think she’s up for sex all the time with anyone, shows just how big an impact porn can have on some people’s psyche.
And that’s where 3DX steps in. Because we don’t need to worry about Sayako having trouble dealing with her fans’ perception of her, she’s thrilled to have them because she is pure fantasy. And let’s face it, her sex life is amazing.
When it comes to 3DX, things are different in a sense. It’s possible to completely disconnect, to lose all sense of reality, and yet still be able to return to it once the animation, comic, or game has served its purpose. After all, these are not real people. The girl or futa cumming in under five seconds and then repeatedly for the next ten minutes isn’t ridiculous. It’s fiction, we know that. (Just to be clear, when a girl does that in a live-action porn movie, that is also fiction).
But while we know 3DX is a fantasy, that doesn’t necessarily mean it can’t alter our perception of reality. We know futanaris, unfortunately, do not really exist. Fifty-inch cocks don’t either (I’m pretty sure you’d pass out with every erection). But maybe those perfect bodies and futa babes do have an influence on how we engage in sex, and how we view sexual partners. I’m not saying “hey you need to quit porn and 3DX”. By no means! I love the stuff! Speaking from personal experience, however, I believe it’s important to consider the impact this media (which accounts for up to 20% of internet pages according to these statistics) can have on our personal and intimate lives. It’s important to be able to take a step back every now and then in order to better appreciate this unique media later.
3DX is like anything really. If you look at the trends in recent years, boobs and cocks have got bigger and bigger. Why do you think that is? My personal opinion is that we are constantly on the lookout for something new. We’ve developed a tolerance to the everyday futa, so now we need more, bigger, better. It’s like the push for bigger booties in real life. Or maybe people just really love MASSIVE tits and bums? Again, it’s all cool as long as it doesn’t have too much of an impact on our real lives and relationships.
I truly believe that porn in general is something that can benefit our lives. The argument “that’s how kids get their sex ed these days” is a valid one sure. But I mean, take a look at actual sex ed. Who the fuck actually learns anything there? It is also a career for hundreds of thousands (probably way more) people around the world (myself included). It can be a release, an aphrodisiac, a creative muse, art, and much much more. And often, venting our sexual frustrations or cravings by watching porn is the best and easiest way. When that tipping point comes, sometimes there’s just no saying no. Remember that film Don Jon with Joseph Gordon Levitt? If I remember correctly, the message is not to quit porn now, rather, learn when to disconnect from it, and to appreciate the fact that it is just fiction in order to better enjoy it!
How has porn and 3DX impacted your life? Please share your thoughts. We’d love to know just how important this media is in your personal life.
Right now back to Cyberpunk 2077 and then some G4E.