Dear Affect3D fans and visitors, I would like to draw your attention to a shocking gender inequality issue that has troubled me for some time. This discriminatory activity is being practiced right now in every city and every country, showing no sign of abating any time soon. You might be a victim yourself or may know some of the victims. In fact you might even be responsible for furthering this persecution and inequality.
I’m talking of course about the discrimination against a man who uses sex toys and the stigma attached by those who know such men. But why is this stigma attached to this practice? And why should it exist in the first place?
The Flip-side Of The Coin
Arguably since the advent of even the most rudimentary advanced civilizations, women have had access to objects that have given them sexual pleasure without the need for a male companion. Be it the earliest fertility symbols carved by our stone age ancestors through the Victorian era of wooden strap-on accessories (which some of you may have seen in the BBC costume drama “Tipping the Velvet”) and into today’s world of hi-tech, high production value, vibrators and dildos coming in a dazzling array of shapes and sizes to suit any woman’s tastes and desires.
What About Guys?
By contrast, devices created to give men pleasure, are a relatively new phenomenon. And for the most part are still rather basic in design and are widely varying in terms of both quality and effectiveness. Unsurprisingly perhaps, it’s the Japanese who are making the biggest advances in male toy development, given their long history of technical innovation and interest in all things sexual their desire to improve these products shouldn’t come as a shock to anyone.
While the Japanese may be at the forefront of male toy advances, it’s American manufacturers who arguably dominate the market with the Fleshlight (which has almost become a generic term for male toys). Whilst being a technologically simple device, it has nonetheless gained a reputation as a trusted and reliable option, especially among those who may not want to expose their genitalia to anything with an electrical power supply!
The “Ugly” Truth
If you find yourself in a dentist’s or doctor’s surgery thumbing through the magazines, or at home while your wife or girlfriend is otherwise occupied, take a look through the pages of Vogue, Cosmopolitan or any widely published and respected woman’s magazine and sooner or later you will find an in depth article reviewing and rating the current generation of female sex toys. That’s right! Not in some seedy publication bought “under the counter” while wearing a hat and sunglasses. But a mainstream female magazine, containing open and frank discussion of sex toys, with no shame or subterfuge.
Redressing The Balance
Considering this aforementioned reality, why is there a stigma attached to men who own sex toys? Doesn’t it seem extraordinarily unfair, perhaps even hypocritical? I say hypocritical because sadly, although women are proud of all aspects of their sexuality (and rightly so), they do seem to be very quick to attach negative labels to men who express and explore their own sexuality.
And herein lies the key to overcoming this discrimination, or at least gaining an equal status. Simply put, if a man can be labelled as a “loser” or a “pervert” for doing the same thing that a woman is doing, then logically isn’t that woman also a “loser” and a “pervert”? Women have many reasons for using sex toys, all of them valid, justifiable and, more importantly, accepted by their fellow women. Any man can adopt, use and repeat each of these reasons in his own defense. It is very hard for any woman to argue against any accepted aspect of empowering female ideology as this essentially weakens her own position. As any martial artist will tell you, the most effective way to defeat someone is to use their own strength against them. Use this knowledge wisely young grasshopper!
What’s In It For Me?
Do you really need to ask that question? More sexual pleasure and satisfaction are the most obvious benefits. Perhaps the second would be not developing carpal tunnel syndrome or having arthritis by age 40! But there are more existential benefits, benefits which extend beyond yourself. We all love going out and chatting up women in bars and clubs, but wouldn’t you rather do this because you want to, instead of doing it because you have to? The more of us guys who lie to and mistreat women just to get a few fleeting moments of more sexual satisfaction than our right hand is capable of will do nothing for our already low reputation in the eyes of women. But the more of us who are out there seeking women for the right reasons can only be a good thing for relations between the sexes.
Okay, maybe male sex toys aren’t gonna save the world. But they won’t hurt it either.